Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught that the purpose of life is to become a version of ourSelves untouched by grief, free from wounds, no longer shaped by loss. 

I don’t experience that’s what we’re here for. I spent decades doing everything in my power to heal from the aftermath of childhood sexual assault. This, alongside working with others on their own healing paths. What I noticed was that despite the good news, the new age, and new psychology, healing is an elusive thing. It truly is in the eye of the beholder. Through all the blaming, shaming, and re-framing from teachers and practitioners, I just stopped. I stopped chasing wellness. I stopped chasing healing.

I accepted Body and Mind where they are, and in doing so began to tend them. I began to listen to them and do what they need, instead of applying principles and techniques from therapists and books. I re-aquainted in my relationship with mySelf, and through doing so began to engage All That I Am, intentionally, willfully, rebelliously. I began to actively participate in mySelf. And through doing so learned to participate in life, to belong to a place, to tend my relationships, to love people who won’t be here forever, to become a good Ancestor.

Tending isn’t valuable because it erases pain. In fact, it often doesn’t touch pain at all. Instead, it creates a space to sit with it, so that pain isn’t alone. So that I am not alone. Tending is valuable because it makes us more available to relationship. An animistic life isn’t measured by how healed we are. It’s measured by how fully we participate in the living world, how we tend what we love, and most especially perhaps how we tend what we don’t. The goal was never perfection. The goal was always participation.

Recover aspects of you who need to feel safe in Soul Tending sessions. These sessions restore your spiritual relationship to yourSelf.