The skills of transformation

aren’t the skills of sustaining change.

I see it all the time: people create incredible transformations in their lives. 

In the joy of those miracles they internalize that the high generated by deep change is enough to make change permanent. Couple that misconception with the deep hunger for and relief brought by transformation, and the result is transformation becomes the high point of the experience.

It is, in a way. It is passion, power, freedom, all the things we were missing before the transformation.

After, those things can fool us. When we think they are the benefit of transformation, we have already gone awry.

Transformation is just the turning point. It’s merely the glimpse of an improved way of being. In order for transformation to result in sustained improved quality of life, we have to also have the skill set that understands what needs to change in our lives, in order to hold on to the wisdom of that transformation. We think these two distinct stages of growth are the same skill set, but they aren’t. Another step is, we then have to go get those skills if we don’t have them. We must have the discernment to know what skills are missing and locate the resources to acquire them.

This is why soul healing + therapy + body expression + space change + nourishment + relationship growth + community

Transformation isn’t meant to be the closer. It’s not the stopping point.
It’s meant to show you what next.


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S. Kelley Harrell, M. Div.

Kelley is an author, animist, and deathwalker in North Carolina. She teaches rune work, ancestral healing, and deathwalking, as well as mentors and leads the soul tending training intensive, The Spirited Path. As an interfaith minister, she has served her local community and an international client base since 2000 through Soul Intent Arts, and advocates embodied soul tending and sacred activism through Nature. #beyourcommunity

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