I still accept Q&A from readers of my blog, regarding animism, shamanism, and all manner of soul healing. If you would like to submit an inquiry, read the TOS and direct it me.
Dear Kelley
I have the gift of a new start and want to honour, respect, and dive into it joyously. A drag in that is my relation to others. I feel wounded from things in the past and I don’t want to take that into my new life. How can I go about releasing the last vestiges of the old pain and my part in it, to attract love and support into my new life? Thank you for creating this interesting and generous opportunity. ~A
Thanks for your note, A. When I see summaries of where people are along manifesting their heart’s desires, I often see sand drawings along a coastal shoreline. Instead of seeing you at the shoreline, I see you about waist-deep in the surf, attempting to still the waves with the palms of your hands.
When I ask this aspect of you how stilling the water symbolizes the way you relate to others, the response is, “I just need a little space to get steady, then they can come.” She’s indicating intentionally holding back relationships until some self-defined sense of readiness or healing has come.
I ask her what that readiness or healing feels like, and I find myself floating gently on the surf. So, she does have an idea of what that balance feels like. Incorporating the sense of being carried while also actively participating is key. There is also an emphasis on trust, and allowing support from others.
Appealing to my guides, they indicate that water should be an available comfort to sink into, during this shift. The body needs that gentle support to release emotions internalized in the cells. With intention, water can help shepherd away memories and uncomfortable feelings the body has carried.
They also suggest looking beyond the current manifestation of the self, to ancestral lines, and do any release work necessary there. Some of the relationship distress isn’t yours, A, and that’s why the work you’ve done to release it only reaches so far. Tune the focus of healing more widely around you, through your lines on all sides, and across space and time, to release anything unwanted, regarding relationship hurt. You don’t have to identify these ancestral wounds, or even name them. Acknowledge them, and through your healing methods and spiritual support, allow them to leave. A few passes with a H’oponopono ritual may help and bring comfort with the changes coming into your life.
If you don’t have anyone who can help you do this work, it may be something we can do remotely.
Best to you, A!
Beautiful as always. Referencing your answer to A, the ho’ opono pono ritual is one of the most valuable things you have taught me.
I use it often, Lorna. I’m glad it’s been helpful for you!
What a wonderful soothing article. Thank you for posting this insightful message.
Thank you for stopping by, Regina!
Kelly, your words are beautifully soothing and inspiring for me 🙂 I’m grateful that you are posting these questions online, and I hope that it not only helps the inquiring soul, and mine, but many others. <3 Please don't stop!
Thank you, Lisa. I’m so glad you stopped by!
HI,
I like your approach. I was wondering: what’s your take on free will?
De
De, my take on free will is that it’s on the same end of the continuum as fate/destiny. I don’t find them opposites at all. In fact, it takes a bit of both.
Best to you, and thanks for commenting!
Thank you Kelley, that was very informative and healing in itself. I have been keeping a space in which to heal and get my sense of Self. I have been aware of the ancestral component. I read in one of your posts about inviting them in, which I did and getting my guides to heal them, and since then a few times other people have brought up conversations about ancestors. So I know it is something I need to look at. I will do the Ho’oponopono. Is it possible for me to do this work with you? And of course I realise I will be healing my ancestors which gives me a sense of pleasure and gratitude that I can do this for them. And the fact that this can be done just reinforces my understanding over and over again, that the universe is incredibly wild and fascinatingly creative and mind blowing.
Many thanks for your kindness and empathy
A
A, check this out and see if it is helpful: http://www.soulintentarts.com/resources/hoponopono.pdf
Also, the shorter:
I’m sorry. Forgive me for ___.
Thank you for ____.
I love you.
Goes a long way.
We could do some distance work that focuses on ancestral release. If you still feel that’s needed after doing ho’ opono pono, and any followup work on your own, do touch base.
Thank you, and gentle waves to you!